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By Cristina Benitez-Hubleur

 

When you are left twiddling your thumbs when the kids have grown, what do you do when you have spent your entire life changing diapers and singing nighttime lullabies?

With three children ages 17, 7, and 4, I am now trying to piece together the life I had before the kids. In my 40s, I am trying to find work while my children venture out into the world sans Mama. The tools I‘ve learned have long been unused, buried inside my mind. Now here I am in the present, some 20 years later, with another diploma in my hand but still missing the necessary tools to survive in my new home country.

That’s why I am now writing my daughters. I want them to understand that you do not have to sacrifice your dreams. In this age, women can accomplish both career and motherhood. I know plenty of women who have raised strong, well-educated, and independent children who juggled both. At the end of the day, it is the love you give them and the quality of time you spent with them that matters.

That’s why I am now telling my daughters: Spread your wings wide and you will accomplish that happy balance between home and career. For at the end of the day, despite my frustrations at not finding work, I look at you all as you sleep and say to myself, “This is my greatest accomplishment.”

 

Cristina recently migrated from California to Switzerland with her Swiss husband Claude and their three daughters. A full-time mom for nearly 10 years, she is now rediscovering her talents as she takes on new jobs in education and media. She hopes to tell of the joys and challenges of being a mother, wife, and perennial migrant.  

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